What happens in a couples session
It is me and the two of you, for the whole session. Here is the actual shape of one, in order.
First, I hear both of your voices
Once your deposit is paid we set up a group chat, and before the day I want a call with the two of you on it. I need to hear both voices, and that is not a formality. I need to know that you are both fully informed and that the enthusiasm is coming from both sides.
Which brings me to the one thing I will not do. Under no circumstances will I be part of a session that is a surprise for your partner. You can only book me with the two of you if your partner is an excited, willing, enthusiastically consenting party in their own right.
Then we agree what kind of evening it is
Who's leading, who's receiving, whether I'm dominating you both or working alongside one of you, and what's firmly off the table for each of you. Two people means two sets of limits, and they're rarely identical. Where they differ, the narrower one holds.
Safe words we sort out together on WhatsApp beforehand, in whatever form suits the two of you. I am not going to impose a word that feels ridiculous to say out loud, or insist on the traffic light system I happen to use myself.
The session itself
It starts slower than people expect. There's a settling-in period where very little happens, because two nervous people in a strange room need a few minutes more than one does, and because I want to watch how you are with each other before I start rearranging it.
From there it builds. What it builds into is whatever we agreed, and the honest answer to "what will it be like" is that it depends entirely on what the two of you asked for. Anticipation does a great deal of the work. So does watching your partner have an experience you arranged together.
How long it takes
Longer than a solo session. Two people means two sets of reactions to read and twice the aftercare, and an hour that would be generous for one person is tight for two. Say what you're hoping for and I'll tell you what I'd want for it.
Afterwards
Aftercare is held for both of you, together. You arrived together and you leave together, and the hour afterwards belongs to the session as much as the session does. Expect to be quiet, hungry and slightly stupid for a while. That's normal and it passes.
What you take away
Most couples describe the same thing: they now have words for something they'd only been able to gesture at, and a way of asking each other for it again without a professional in the room.
Next
Femdom for couples covers the idea more broadly. Couples sessions in London is the page about booking one, and there is a field on the enquiry form for your partner's email so I can get the two of you into a chat together.
Questions people ask
What happens in a couples BDSM session?
We get on a call together first so I can hear that you both want this, then the session is arranged around what you asked for. It starts slowly, builds, and ends with aftercare held for the two of you together.
How long should a couples session be?
Longer than a solo session. Two people means twice the reactions to read and twice the aftercare, so an hour that is generous for one person is tight for two.
Do both partners have to speak to the Dominatrix first?
Yes, on a call together once the deposit is paid. I will never be part of a session that is a surprise for a partner, so I need to hear that both of you want to be there.